Arranged Marriage

This kind of marriages need more help from Swamiji Sri Selvam Siddhar. Before arranging marriage the match making of horoscopes is a must. Now days the astrologers match the stars only. They do not match the horoscopes. According to the Vedas it is not a proper procedure. Arranged marriage is a marriage arranged by someone other than the couple getting wedded, curtailing or avoiding the process of courtship. Such marriages had deep roots in most of the families around the world. The arranged marriage is practiced widely in South Asia, and the Middle East to some extent. It should not be confused with the phenomenon of forced marriage.

The match could be selected by parents, a matchmaking agent, matrimonial site, or a trusted third party. In many communities, priests or religious leaders as well as relatives or family friends play a major role in matchmaking. The pattern of arranged marriage can be employed for other reasons besides the formation of a promising new family unit. In such marriages, typically economic or legal reasons take precedence over the goal of selecting a well-matched couple. Though critics are not always specific, criticism of arranged marriage usually targets abuses such as forced marriage and child marriage.

In a “forced marriage” the parents choose their son’s or daughter’s future spouse with no input from their son or daughter. This form of arranged marriage is rare in the modern Western world, but not quite as rare in some other parts of the world. Occasionally, even if the son or daughter disapproves of the choice, the marriage takes place regardless, overriding their objections. In some societies, in order to ensure cooperation the parents may threaten the child with punishment, or in rare cases, disinheritance and death. Motivating factors for such a marriage tend to be social or economic, i.e., the interests of the family or community goals served by the marriage are seen as paramount, and the preference of the individual is considered insignificant. In a “child marriage” children, or even infants, are married. The married children often live apart with their respective families until well after puberty. Child marriages are typically made for economic or political reasons. In rural India and several other countries, the requirement of providing a dowry for daughters is generally acknowledged to be a contributing factor to female infanticide. In East Africa a form of arranged marriage known as absuma is set up between cousins at birth.

In a “shotgun wedding” the groom is forced to marry the bride due to unplanned pregnancy (or other reasons). It is given this colloquial name from the traditional method of force used: holding a shotgun to the groom’s head until he is married. This can also be classified as a forced marriage. Although it is worth noting that the concept came about before the invention of the shotgun. Laws of Old Testament Israel said that if an unmarried couple engages in extramarital sex the female can force the man to marry her or pay a fine. A reason is never given in the text, but it is likely predicated on the text’s specification that the woman was a virgin; no longer being a virgin, it would be difficult for her to find a marriage, and so her sexual partner must marry her to provide for her well-being. Alternatively, it could be based on family honor, i.e. it was shameful for her to have had relations without being married, and it would be all the more shameful if she had a child out of wedlock. The main variation in procedure between arranged marriages is in the nature and duration of the time from meeting to engagement.

In an “introduction only” arranged marriage, the parents may only introduce their son or daughter to a potential spouse. The parents may briefly talk to the parents of the prospective spouse. From that point on, it is up to the children to manage the relationship and make a choice. There is no set time period. This is still common in the rural parts of North America, South America and especially in India. The same pattern also appears in Japan. This type of arranged marriage is very common in Iran also. This open-ended process takes considerably more courage on the part of the parents, as well as the prospective spouses, in comparison to a fixed time-limit arranged marriage. Women and men fear the stigma and emotional trauma of going through a courtship and then being rejected.

A more moderate and flexible procedure known as a “modern arranged marriage” is gaining in popularity. Parents choose several possible candidates or employ a marriage website. The parents will then arrange a meeting with the family of the prospective mate, confining their role to responsible facilitators and well-wishers. Less pressure to agree to the match is exerted by the parents in comparison to a traditional arranged marriage.

In some cases, a prospective partner may be selected by the son or daughter instead of by the parents or by a matchmaker. In such cases, the parents will either disapprove of the match and forbid the marriage or, just as likely, approve the match and agree to proceed with the marriage. Such cases are distinct from a love marriage because courtship is curtailed or absent and the parents retain the prerogative to forbid the match.

In cultures where dating is not prevalent, arranged marriages perform a similar function–bringing together people who might otherwise not have met. In such cultures, arranged marriage is viewed as the norm and preferred by young adults. Even where courtship practices are becoming fashionable, young adults tend to view arranged marriage as an option they can fall back on if they are unable or unwilling to spend the time and effort necessary to find spouses on their own. In such cases, the parents become welcome partners in a hunt for marital bliss. Further, in several cultures, the last duty of a parent to his or her son or daughter is to see that he or she passes through the marital rites.

In some cultures, arranged marriage is a tradition handed down through many generations. Parents who take their son or daughter’s marriage into their own hands have themselves been married by the same process. Many parents and children likewise, feel pressure from the community to conform, and in certain cultures a love marriage or even courtship is considered a failure on the part of the parents to maintain control over their child. In such cultures, children are brought up with these cultural assumptions and so do not feel stifled.

Parents in some communities fear social and/or religious stigma if their child is not married by a certain age. Several cultures deem the son or daughter less likely to find a suitable partner if he or she is past a certain age, and consider it folly to try to marry them off at that stage. In these societies, including China, the intra generational relationship of the family is much more valued than the marital relationship. The whole purpose of the marriage is to have a family. Before entering into an arranged marriage there are many aspects to analyze. These factors are reputation, vocation; Concept, Religious History, Wealth, Religion: Horoscope, Dietary preference, Height, Age difference, Language and there many other factors for an arranged marriage. We will see more details about all these factors.

Reputation: Reputation is the opinion of the public toward a person, a group of people, or an organization. It is an important factor in many fields, such as education, business, online communities or social status. It is known to be a ubiquitous, spontaneous and highly efficient mechanism of social control in natural societies. Reputation is a fundamental instrument of social order, based upon distributed, spontaneous social control.

A vocation: A vocation as defined in a religious environment is an occupation for which a person is suited, trained or qualified. Often those who follow a religious vocation have an inclination to undertake the work, often called a calling. This type of vocation is either professional or voluntary and can include many different religious backgrounds.

Vocations can be seen as fulfilling a psychological or spiritual need for the worker, and the term can also be used to explain any occupation for which a person is specifically gifted. While matching horoscopes, Swamiji Sri.Selvam Siddhar pays a special attention to vocation, because vocation is the major factor which decides the peaceful living of the couple.

Concept of Vocation: The idea of vocation is central to the human belief that God has created each person with gifts and talents oriented toward specific purposes and a way of life. Particularly in the Atharva Veda this idea of vocation is especially associated with a divine call to service to the humanity through particular vocational life commitments such as marriage to a particular person, consecration as a religious and spiritual couple. According to Swamiji Sri.Selvam Siddhar’s words, “by leading a spiritual life, one can lead a comfortable life. There is no caste, creed or religion to lead a spiritual life. If everybody adopts a spiritual life, the world will be the park of peace.” As a Commander of philosophy and spirituality, Selvam Siddhar (Dr.Commander Selvam) gives this command to the humanity. In the broader sense, vocation includes the use of one’s gifts in their profession, family life, social and religious commitments for the sake of the greater common good.

The idea of a vocation or “calling” has been pivotal in all parts of the world. Swamiji Selvam Siddhar, as a scholar of Atharva Veda teaches that each individual is expected to fulfill his God-appointed task in everyday life. Although the concept of the calling emphasized vocation, there was no particular emphasis on labor beyond what was required for one’s daily bread. As an Atharva Veda scholar, Swamiji Siddhar defines the role of “The human in his vocation.” He notes that God has prescribed appointed duties to men and styled such spheres of life vocations or callings.

Wealth: The meaning of the word at its simplest, that which satisfies human needs and wants of utility. In popular usage, wealth can be described as an abundance of items of economic value, or the state of controlling or possessing such items, usually in the form of money, real estate and personal property. An individual who is considered wealthy, affluent, or rich is someone who has accumulated substantial wealth relative to others in their society or reference group. Wealth can be categorized into three principal categories: personal property, including homes or automobiles; monetary savings, such as the accumulation of past income; and the capital wealth of income producing assets, including real estate, stocks, and bonds. All these delineations make wealth an especially important part of social stratification. Wealth provides a type of safety net of protection against an unforeseen decline in one’s living standard in the event of job loss or other emergency and can be transformed into home ownership, business ownership, or even a college education. According to Selvam Siddhar this physical wealth is nothing. It is just a commodity required to pull on the life. None can buy the “punya” or blessings with the wealth but any body can buy wealth with the “punya” or blessings.

Richness can also refer at least basic needs being met with abundance widely shared. The opposite of wealth is destitution. The opposite of richness is poverty. The term implies a social contract on establishing and maintaining ownership in relation to such items which can be invoked with little or no effort and expense on the part of the owner. The concept of wealth is relative and not only varies between societies, but will often vary between different sections or regions in the same society. A personal net worth of US $10,000 in most parts of the United States would certainly not place a person among the wealthiest citizens of that locale. However, such an amount would constitute an extraordinary amount of wealth in impoverished developing countries. Only because of the US $ value in Indian currency a lot of brides and grooms from India wish to have their life partner from USA. The planets are the only reason to have the life partner from a foreign country.

Concepts of wealth also vary across time. Modern labor-saving inventions and the development of the sciences have enabled the poorest sectors of today’s society to enjoy a standard of living equivalent if not superior to the wealthy of the not-too-distant past. This comparative wealth across time is also applicable to the future; given this trend of human advancement, it is likely that the standard of living that the wealthiest today enjoy will be considered rude poverty by future generations.

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In most cultures having sex before marriage is an abomination which receives a lot of public criticism and severe consequences. Customary rules advocate for acceptable sexual behavior. Lessons on how to have sex and reproduce are forcefully and subtly taught to people. Incase their is any deviation from these rules their is a big price to pay. Sexual urges are still publicly revealed despite the social pressure to stick to the riles. This does not have to be spoken out since it is clearly read from our sexual body language.

One of the sexual body language is revealed through a standing posture where the thumbs are deeply set in the pockets. It is a sexy posture that says it better than any word. It emphasizes great sexuality. He will casually stand like this mostly while facing a woman who sexually appeals to him. He is using the body language to communicate that “You know i want you badly, can’t we go to work?”. You should notice that the fingers are pointing down to the area of sexual interest. Guys will seriously claim it is a comfortable and relaxed way to stand but we can read the body language. Women also use certain body language to attract attention from men and show their sexuality. It is like they say ‘hey, i am a female look at me!’ It is like she is unconsciously posing to advertise her sexuality.

A woman will use her eyes to tell you what you mean to her. She might not say it but her eyes betray her. If she wants some sex action you will read the passion in her eyes. Women are emotional and if you maintain less proximity between the two of you, there is a possibility that you will end up kissing. She used her sexual body language to entice you. Body language is strong than any customs and will come out louder than than any word. Women use their sexual body language to attract or reject men. Men’s body language gives women enough information to help them make the decisions over time. This provides an opportunity for the woman to choose the most desirable man to mate with and develop a long lasting relationship. You thought dating and courtship was meant for romance but it all boils down to maintaining the species or preventing the species from becoming extinct.

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Is there a time for love, romance and relations?

The answer should be a resounding yes. To celebrate emotions, love and romance, people use a lot of symbols: flowers, gems, candy, food, drinks, dance, a romantic dinner, e Cards, jewellery and … chocolate!

The 14th of February is the day for friends and lovers to express their feelings and share a glorious custom by gifts of flowers, gems, romantic letters and more.

Since ancient times people is looking for a time to share glorious moments with those special beings and loved ones.

The Valentine e Cards are the inheritance from a man who was executed the 14th of February of the year 269. He left a note for the daughter of his jailer, to thank her for being so special to him. He signed what we would call an e Card with the signature: “From your Valentine”.

Pagan Romans celebrated the feast of Lupercadia which was one of the orgy-centric all day bashes enjoyed by Romans.

During Lupercadia, which was held on February 14, women would write love letters and leave them in a large urn. Each Roman man would draw a note and go after who wrote the message they chose.

Lupercadia which was a fertility festival dedicated to Jaunus the Roman God and Godess of agriculture.

With the advent of Christianity, Lupercadia was banned and Valentine´s day was offered as substitute. Pope Getasius declared February 14 Saints Valentine´s day around 498 AD.

France and England people used to believe February 14 was the beginning of birds mating season, which reinforced the idea that the middle of February, Valentine´s day should be a day for romance.

Besides the United States, Valentine´s day is celebrated in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France and Australia. For a reason unknown to me, Valentine´s day is celebrated in Venezuela in September.

Since ancient times, love, friendship and romance are the privilege of everybody. So, Valentine´s is the opportunity for us to show appreciation for those we love, for our friends and for those special beings close to our hearts on a creative and positive relationship.

A great way to show our feelings is by gifts of flowers. A bouquet of cut flowers is awesome as it is able to transform a normal environment into a beautiful garden.

Gifts are traditional as a way to show affection, love, romance and friendship. Valentine´s day is marvellous to look for and then enjoy a little corner of paradise for a sexy weekend getaway. It is marvellous to enjoy a sense of privacy in sensual surroundings to inspire romance, seduce yourself and somebody special in a sleek sexy hideaway for lovers.

Find that magic place overlooking a lake. Enjoy fountains, fireplaces, a Watsu massage pool and a seductive, spacious Aqua Dolce for couples, compound.

What about enjoying a hideaway where you can arrange a Latin guitar trio to serenade you on the beach and have dinner on a moon lit patio.

For those who feel adventurous there are beautiful places where you can enjoy canoeing, diving, sailing, surfing, fishing and a lot more.

What would we do without romance?

Ancient Greeks helped to recognize the need to describe different kinds of love. They invented the word “eros” to describe carnal love and “agape” to mean a spiritual love.

Love and courtship have evolved with time. There was a time when scarcity of nubile women caused marriages to originate in captures, after men raided neighboring villages for wives.

Then, the word honeymoon was born. There was a French custom originated in the fact that newly married couples went into hidden to avoid the kidnapped grooms to be rescued. After the moon went through all its phases, the couple drank a brew called metheglin which was made of honey.

At that time arranged marriages were the norm. They were business relations born out of the desire and or need for property, monetary or political alliances.

During medieval times, love emerged as a relevant cause for a relationship, in reaction to arranged marriages. The Victorian era, after 1830, brought romantic love to become the primary requirement for marriage.

Love, romance and friendship are great reasons to share, dine and gift.

Poems, cards, candy, food, drinks jewellery and romantic places are great ways to show loved ones how important they are for us.

Valentine day is the time to express love and celebrate the spirit of love.

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Many cultures have a variation of this challenging and delightful practice, the Taoists in China and the Cheyenne in North America. There are differences in these practices, but all forms of sacred sexuality share the intentional cultivation and use of sexual energy for spiritual growth, healing, creativity and enhanced pleasure.

The practices of Tantra were first introduced to the west in the 1800s, but a Tantric revival in the ashrams of India during the late 1960s has led to a gradual popularization of these practices in Europe and North America. Recent testimonials by celebrity musicians and movie stars like Sting and Woody Harrelson have promoted it and Tantra is becoming the sexual learning of choice for those who want to have it all: a passionate sex life, a healthy body, and spiritual growth.

Tantric lovemaking involves breathing exercises, muscle contraction exercises, sound, visualization, affirmations, creating a sacred loving space and other ceremonial practices, meditation, sensual massage, and sexual play. In order to build a high sexual energy charge and to move into ecstatic states of divine connection Tantric lovers extend lovemaking over several hours, experiencing extraordinary levels of pleasure along the way.

Part of the delight of Tantra is that you can continue to learn and advance throughout years of practice; it is never-ending in its potential for growth. At the same time, it is a practice that yields immediate results. You can experience a difference in your lovemaking right now if you follow these nine simple steps.

Tantric Loving Step by Step

1. Intention

Regular lovemaking has a goal, orgasm. If you both come at the same instant, many believe this is as good as it gets. However, this approach often results in a great deal of frustration and performance anxiety. With Tantric sacred loving there is no goal, but there is a purpose, union. Your intention is to merge with your lover in all aspects, body, mind, heart and soul, not just body. You can help this along by looking at your lover differently, by seeing your partner as a god or goddess, as a living expression of the divine. Look for the glory, the beauty and the wonder in your playmate and in yourself and let that shine.

2. Creating a Sacred Loving Space

Set the mood; transform any ordinary space, bedroom, living room, etc., into a sacred space. It takes only a few minutes and costs little or nothing. The important thing is your intention, not the specific items you use. First, clean the room; vacuum, dust, and put away any clutter lying about. In the evening dim the lights and use lots of candles. Bring in plants or fresh cut flowers. A bowl of fruit is very sensual. You may wish to have a bottle of wine to share. Bring special objects that have emotional importance for into the room. Make up a lover’s bed using your finest clean linens (silk is exquisite) and have lots of pillows handy.

When you have finished creating the space, take a few moments to purify it energetically. That means consciously sending away negative or fearful thoughts and feelings, and inviting in those that are joyous, passionate and safe. Create your own rituals with sweet grass, incense, and musical instruments.

3. The Lover’s Purifying Bath

Cleanse each other in preparation for your joyous union. Wash away the dirt and cares of the world. A hot bath with essential oils and bath salts is perfect, especially if you can both fit into the tub at the same time. A shower is the next best thing, but perfectly acceptable. The essential thing is to be squeaky clean. After all you will be eating off that skin! Make the bath a slow, luxurious affair giving complete attention to your lover. Wash and dry each other with playful abandon. Men shave or trim facial hair and apply scent. Women apply their best perfumes and lotions. Sensually prepare your bodies for the delights ahead.

4. Honor, Respect and Permission

Trust, surrender and opening your heart are essential if you want to reach the heights of bliss. It is not just technique that will get you there. You must join together as loving equals on the sexual journey.

Men, think of the yoni (vagina) as a potential opening, don’t ever take your lady for granted! Speak softly how much you adore, love and respect her as you gently blow on her ears and nibble on her ear lobes. Let her know that you think of her constantly and how strong your desire is to make love with (not to) her. Also, let her know that you invite her to awaken sexually and to express her sexuality fully. Let her know that you are NOT caught in that tired old cultural conditioning that still insists “good girls” do not enjoy sex, the Madonna/Whore split. Make her believe you when you tell her that you know she can be all she wants to be: a successful career woman, a respectful daughter, a faithful wife, a caring mother, a passionate lover and a sincere spiritual seeker all at the same time. Tell her how beautiful she is, how wonderful she smells, and all the things you appreciate most about her. Finally, ask permission to be her passionate Tantric lover.

Ladies, let your man know that he is safe! He may act macho and tough, showing little emotion, but inside most men are afraid of emotional intimacy. The tougher a man acts the greater this fear of trusting and surrendering will be. Let him know that you admire his strength, but that it also turns you on when he allows himself to be vulnerable by showing his feelings. Tell him how handsome he is and how talented. Mention all the things you like most about him. Tell him why you love him so deeply. Tell him how much you think about him when he is away, and how you have fantasies about making love with him and touching him when he returns. Make him believe that you really want him sexually. Finally, ask permission to be his passionate Tantric lover.

5. Foreplay

Two simple ways to tune into each other are harmonizing your breathing and gazing deeply into each other’s eyes. By matching your breathing rhythms and making soulful eye contact you connect emotionally and energetically as well as physically. Begin to explore each other’s bodies with wonder, lust and playfulness.

Remember, in Tantric sacred loving there is no goal. You are not trying to get somewhere. Each touch is complete in and of itself. Once you master how to work with your sexual energy both lovers will discover they can have orgasms just by touching fingers together, or looking into each other’s eyes across a crowded room! So men are not in a hurry to get at the woman’s breasts or into her yoni. When touching her body, start at the extremities, fingers and toes, and work in toward the hot spots. Go slowly! Generally men enjoy having their genitals touched at any time, but women usually only enjoy having their breasts and genitals touched after they are already sexually excited from other touching, stimulating conversation, or emotional connection. Make sure the woman is well lubricated before any attempt at intercourse. If possible, help her to have a clitoral orgasm before moving on to intercourse.

6. Intercourse

Five to fifteen minutes of lovemaking is usually not satisfying for women. Men can learn to delay ejaculation so that lovemaking can be extended for hours. A man can delay ejaculation for weeks or months at a time, not just during one lovemaking session. A man who masters his ejaculation response can separate orgasm from ejaculation and become a multi-orgasmic-man! Such a man can last long enough in lovemaking so that his female partner will have enough time to also have multiple orgasms.

Although Tantric loving lasts several hours, this does not mean you are having active intercourse during that entire time. Intercourse is interspersed with touching, oral play, quietly holding each other, dancing, massage, etc. It is a good idea for a man to allow his erection to subside every 30-45 minutes to exchange the blood supply and recharge his oxygen and hormone levels in the lingam (penis).

7. Moving Your Energy: The Passion Pump

Riding the wave of bliss happens when the lovers become totally aroused sexually, maintaining that arousal for a period of time. They build up intense hot sexual energy. For the man, if this energy has nowhere else to go, there will be such great pressure in the prostate, that it will go into involuntary spasm and ejaculation will end the lovemaking. However, with a combination of breathing, relaxation, and muscle contraction exercises both men and women can learn to circulate sexual energy through their own and their lover’s body. Ultimately the ego boundaries disappear and the lovers become one in ecstatic union. The muscle contraction exercise is very simple. If you were urinating and stopped the flow of urine in mid-stream you would be contracting exactly the right muscles in exactly the right way. This squeezing and relaxing of muscles around your genitals is called the PC Pump. It’s the first and most important exercise in learning to circulate your sexual energy.

At the peak of sexual arousal, either during intercourse or manual/oral stimulation stop your normal lovemaking movements and focus on moving the sexual energy that’s pulsing in your genitals. Move it up and through your body. Use slow, deep abdominal breathing to keep your body relaxed. Add the PC pumping action and visualize moving energy up your body in a ball of fire or a wave of light or a current of electricity. Through your eyes, your hands, your genitals pass this powerful force on to your lover. At first, this may seem difficult because we are not accustomed to paying attention to our internal energy. With practice, you will be able to recognize and direct it.

8. Afterplay

Regular lovemaking usually ends (often abruptly) when the man ejaculates, but Tantric sacred loving often ends while the lovers still have desire. This assumes the man has some mastery over his ejaculation response so that ending lovemaking is a conscious choice, sometimes including ejaculation, sometimes not. With Tantric loving you wind down your lovemaking with slow caresses, words of endearment and honoring each other with food and drink.

9. Sharing Wine, Food and Other Sensual Pleasures

The sharing of good food, wine and other intoxicants, sensual massage, dressing up in costumes and playing sexual games are part of the ancient Tantric tradition. While Tantra is serious, it need not be heavy. Lighten up; be playful, lusty and daring!

Tantra lovers know that they are personally responsible for their own sexual fulfillment and their own spiritual progress. This may be especially important for men. Many men experience a great deal of performance anxiety. But even the greatest, most sensitive, highly skilled Tantric lover cannot make a woman have orgasms. She must be able to go to that place in herself that is orgasmic. Sexual/spiritual ecstasy has little to do with control. It requires trust, surrender and letting go. Both lovers must learn to do this. If there is some psychological work to do before you will allow yourself to open in this way, then get on with it! In the meantime, please each other with the preparation, serving and consumption of fine food and drink. Lavish each other with touching in sensual massage. Dress up (and down) for each other. Take on different personalities with different costumes; wear masks. Play and laugh together. Celebrate your spirit through your sexuality. Open your heart. Let your lover in and your love out!

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The designs created by the Picts began to have a mysterious religious and symbolic significance. Celtic artwork and symbolism embodied a mix of Druid and Christian religions. The Celts didn’t have a printed language and alternatively communicated their customs and beliefs by word of mouth. Once the first Christian missionaries arrived to the British Isles they established written communication within the Celtic culture. At the same time the monks adopted many of the active Celtic beliefs, and symbols into the Christian religion. This was done in order to bridge the gap between the Druid beliefs and those of the Christians. A great deal of this work was saved by the Christian monks in the “Books Of Kells” which is today housed at Trinity College in Ireland. Therefore the early tattoo designs of the Picts evolved over time and blended with Christian beliefs to form what we know of as Celtic artwork today. The Celtic Cross and Shamrock are two such designs that have survived the test of time.

The Meaning Behind Celtic Symbols

The Celtic Knot

Most Celtic artwork starts with a common knot design. These are attractive knots of interlaced lines that cross over one another repeatedly to produce an exquisite design. These knots don’t have a start or an end they are simply a perpetual knot that goes on eternally. These interwoven lines are thought to symbolize the spiritual and the physical realms of life, which become entangled with each other.

Celtic Tree Of Life Tattoo

Among the favorite themes of Celtic tattoo designs is the Tree Of Life. This in all likelihood goes back as a symbol to the Druidic religion, which was a nature, based religion. Trees frequently symbolize life, growing from a seed into a tree much like a person grows from a child into an adult. Trees are often seen as a life giving plant and are venerated in many naturalistic faiths. There is also an association with Christianity in the Adam and Eve story in which Eve eats the fruit from a tree.

The Celtic Cross Tattoo

Among the most popular and most lasting Celtic designs is the Celtic Cross. The symbolism here is obviously Christian and comes from Jesus on the cross. These are beautiful crosses done with interlacing lines of Celtic knots.

Celtic Heart Tattoos

Another favorite Celtic design theme is a heart. Celtic heart tattoos are once again intertwined knot work in the shape of a heart. Generally done in black color only but can also be done in color. These are exquisite designs and make great tattoos. These are particularly popular among women.

More Symbols Include:

Anchor: Steadfastness

Bell: Weddings, Anniversaries.

Chain Links: Linking of Lives, # of children, Years together.

Cross: Faith, Marriage.

Diamond: Wealth, Good Fortune.

Dragon: Symbol of Wales, Protection.

Flowers: Affection or Courtship, Friendship.

Heart: Love.

Horseshoe: Good Luck and Happiness.

Key: Home

Knot: Everlasting, together forever.

Leaves: Love Grows.

Ship: Smooth passage through life.

Vine: Love Grows.

Wheel: Willingness to work for a loved one.

Double Spoons: The Couple Together Forever.

Triple Spoons: Family.

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Some meanings are obvious and quite well known. For instance, nearly everyone knows that roses symbolize love and red roses symbolize passion. You may want to watch out for the person who gives red roses on the first date as their motives may not be pure! However, giving red roses later in a relationship may symbolize the depth of feelings that have evolved during your courtship and red roses given on a wedding anniversary will let a spouse know that the fire is still there in their relationship. Roses of other colors may send a different message: yellow is for friendship, white is for purity (and may also symbolize eternity which is why they are perfect for weddings or funerals), pink for love and happiness (perfect in the early stages of a relationship or for a first date).

Other flowers carry symbolic meaning as well. The calla lily is the symbol of exquisite beauty and is an exotic way to send a compliment to someone whose beauty you admire. The yellow tulip is the symbol of an unrequited love and would be appropriate to send to someone that you have feeling for, but don’t feel that they love you in return. Who knows, they might really love you and realize by your gift that they need to let you know?

No matter what flowers you choose, the deepest symbolic meaning of flowers is that you care. In fact, in modern times many people completely ignore the traditional symbolic meaning of flowers and simply choose flowers that they find beautiful and put them into unique arrangements. No matter how in love and passionate you feel about someone, giving them red roses when they don’t care for red roses isn’t going to have the desired effect. On the first date, or early in the relationship you may just have to take your chances by choosing traditionally accepted offerings like pink roses, but as time goes by you should make it a point to learn which flowers your partner, secretary, mother or other important person in your life really likes.

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Marriages, we say, are made in heaven. And we fervently hope that they would last till “death do us apart”. Unfortunately this is not how every marriage turns out to be in the modern times. Recent surveys have shown that like the west, the rates of divorce have gone up in the east too. We can’t analyze the causes of this increasing rate of divorce because the reasons are innumerable and varied, nor can we chalk out a ‘break proof’ strategy to keep the marriages from falling apart. But in most cases it has been seen that divorce leaves behind a trail of painful feelings like anxiety, loneliness, feelings of guilt, incompleteness etc which we together refer to as ‘Depression’.

First of all, let me ask you what do you mean when you say that this particular person is going through depression? Depression is a condition that arises when there is an imbalance in the chemicals in the brain which are responsible for our emotional state. Too technical? Let me explain you this way. Our brain primarily is a messaging system, the most efficient messaging system at that. It sends and receives messages from different parts of the body with the help of nerve cells called neurons. These neurons are in turn depended on chemicals called neurotransmitters to do their job. When these neurotransmitters or the brain chemicals fail to deliver messages correctly between brain cells there is disruption in communication thus leading to what we term as depression in common language.

Depression can be dangerous because it sometimes leads to very fateful consequences. It has been seen that people take drastic steps in depression specially after going through a failed relationship. A divorce or a broken courtship from time immemorial has been a very fertile cause of depression. It’s almost like living in a sea of nothingness when we part ways with a person who seemed invincible from our life. We feel as if there’s no purpose left and we are engulfed by a feeling of hopelessness and worthlessness at not having been able to save the relationship. These are, the experts say, very normal consequences of a failed relationship. However depression involves abnormal working of the human mind and as such it needs treatment.

Hence specialists have carved out cures for people going through depression following a “break up”. Let me add here that cures of different causes of depression may differ. In order to cure depression for the above cause, doctors use methods like Psychotherapy or talk therapy. Most of the doctors also prescribe anti-depressants to patients. Again these anti depression pills may differ in strength in accordance with the kind of depression one is having. For example in order to deal with depression on a smaller scale doctors prescribe you to buy xanax, a very popular anti-depression drug which is also available with the on line pharmacies. So if you are prescribed the drug you can buy xanax online at a discounted rate. Benzodiazepines, Valium, Sarex, Klonopin, Ativan, Librium and Tranxene are some other drugs that fall in this category and they are also available on the net. Haldol, Thorazine, Risperdal and Clozaril are the drugs that are prescribed as strong medication for depression. Remember that you should order xanax or any of these medicines only when they have been prescribed by a Doctor and not otherwise.

The only way to cure depression is to acknowledge that you are going through depression. This realization must come from the person concerned. Relapsing in grief and sorrow and living a secluded life inside a shell is no answer to the harshness that life may have given you. Always remember that though it may sound clichéd, a break up or a divorce is not the end of life. Though it’s tough but with a little effort from your side you will find all sorts of avenues opening up right at your foot step. Who knows you may actually bump into your true prince charming only now!

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It may not have been roses and chocolates but it was the beginning of the courtship dance that embraces all life. Mankind does it. Animals do it. The birds and the bees do it. Dating may change styles but the end result of being a couple or mate is where we are all headed and that is being together.

What is the whole deal with internet dating?

Many people find that the internet is a fast way to connect with many people. It is probably less expensive than going to bars looking for that special someone. Most websites allow you to customize your search, thus eliminating people you think might not be best suited for you. There are also websites that are based on important issues such as religion, sexuality or even age and ethnic groups.

I always thought that finding a date on the internet or through a personal ad was for someone afraid to get out. Is this true?

It might be true for a small minority of individuals. Most internet dating users find that websites give a chance to get to know the person before committing to that all important first date.

It also allows you the chance to show a different aspect of yourself. If you are shy it could mean the difference between an awkward first date between strangers and a comfortable meeting between two people who already know something about each other.

What is the difference between a dating site and adult personal’s site?

Ah, this is an interesting question. If you go to a dating website and then visit an adult personal’s site, you will immediately notice the difference. Though clothing seems to get skimpier and skimpier in an effort to attract more suitors, the lack of clothing and erotic poses should clue you in to the nature of adult personal sites.

Many dating websites screen for married people but of course this only works if the person is honest. An adult personal website will have quite a lot of married people looking for “intimate” encounters outside the confines of their marriage.

Are there any other ways to find dates?

Yes, of course there are other ways to find dates other than using the internet. Once upon a time the internet did not exist and yet people still managed to date. Dating has been around for thousands of years.

It may not be as easy to surf through pictures and ads but it can have added benefits. These benefits could be a sense of empowerment over shyness or even tackling new hobbies in order to expand your dating pool.

Many people can attest that their partners were met in unusual places such as the grocery store, doctor’s office or even the park. It still requires that leap into the unknown but at least you know that if you met a man or woman at a dog park, chances are they like dogs.

What are date advisors or consultation firms?

Dating advisors or consultation firms are businesses that specialize in the world of dating. They analyze what criteria a person is searching for, what type of personality they possess and even can help the would-be suitor revamp their image.

In short… they tell you where you are going wrong. Are they always right? No, but they may be able to help you if you find yourself flailing about in unfamiliar waters. Many advisors can help coach you along in areas you are unfamiliar with such as conversation or proper etiquette.

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But some people cannot take it out of their mind that blind dates may perhaps be a stepping stone towards something more appealing such as perhaps steady dating or even courtship if they are really interested in each other. There are a lot of probabilities but the level of expectation that most people have should not be far fetched. There are also misconceptions such as misinterpreting the kindness and attention that a person would give. To these people, being like this may be natural for them while for others, it may mean something special. That is why blind dates leading to something serious may sometimes bring wrong signals, especially if people do not analyze and exercise patience accordingly.

Seriously, blind dates can be provided good and bad qualities, depending on the way things go. People may get along but only to a certain level. Some may hit it off and get serious with one another and then the magic of romance will start. And of course there are people who would rather not force the issue and just remain as friends where they can be better off.

Of course, blind dates will bring hesitative remarks coming from people who have been used to meeting people naturally in social events and gatherings. But the excitement generated by these blind dates is something to be pondered upon. It is true that blind dates may not necessarily produce the best potential partnership and companionship that people gear themselves to but there is no harm in trying without expectations. And another thing, the first meeting does not necessarily serve as the gauge into checking out if two people are indeed compatible. It may take one or two more meetings before finally concluding. Unless of course physically, a person is not really interested in you.

From experience, blind dates can do no harm to anyone. They are merely an alternative way of meeting up with people. What happens after that remains to be seen and would depend on the people being matched.

The way we dress on a date will be a good first impression. However, some people tend to overdo it at times, worrying more about making an impression rather than about what the woman would want or think during the time they get together. For sure, the preparation stage will be a tense moment for two people who are excited and clueless at how everything would turn out. But even though these things will not turn out during their meeting, it will surely be funny to note that spines will tingle and people finding them in another world if all things go well.

Some may call it infatuation, puppy love or love at first sight. But all of these would be overwritten once two people start to see the ins and outs of each other. The thing is first impressions do last but the inner personalities will change over time. They are variable in nature since things such as wearing formal or informal attire; a perception of true inner personalities is something that needs to be considered as well.

Men often find themselves worrying about what to wear and what wardrobe combination would be good for a first date. But a guy also has to put into consideration that he must carry on that type of attire for succeeding meetings if he wants to implant in the mind of the woman that he is all that. But this should not be taken in the way that a man should dress down to the simplest clothes he has on his drawer. It is just that to make an impression, a person must be sure that he can sustain it and be true to himself. The best way is to act normally and just be you. Women rarely go for stunning looks and may even get to a point of being flabbergasted and start to feel uneasy. A woman would only want to see a person in the way he truly is and not the way that the guy would want to express himself. That is why it is best to keep a low profile to keep things normal as much as possible.

It never hurts to want to impress people especially in the first meeting. But trying to be someone through overdressing yourself and trying to be a level where you are not at ease with yourself may entirely ruin the momentous event. Low profile may be the best approach. At least expectations will not be beyond manageable levels.

Jon Caldwell has been going on blind dates occasionally. A lot of his experience on them can be found at http://www.blinddatesonline.net/blinddatesonlinecat/blind-datesset.php

When a man first kisses a girl calmly and peacefully when he says good night, and the whole experience may seem quite harmless.

But if he continues to kiss her, the warmth and intensity grow. In no time at all he is likely to find himself excited and strange, with unmistakable yearnings manifesting themselves in his body and his soul.

Sex attraction, therefore, is intended to lead to a stronger relationship, but only after marriage to its joys and privileges.

But as men and women are different each is possessed of a different nature.

Those differences are both physical and psychological. These two natures, each incomplete in itself, find their completion in that sacred fusion which is achieved in matrimony only.

It is sufficient for young people to know this without seeking to explore the physical basis of these differences. The physical element of sex has been limited by God to marriage only. Outside of marriage inordinate physical enjoyment is lust, not love.

That is why young people in love have to be on their guard lest too much physical contact degenerate their love into sordid and selfish passion. Because of this, a clear understanding of the morality of lovemaking before marriage is essential to assure a chaste courtship and a happy marriage.

The Morality of Kissing

There are kisses and kisses, but the general rule of morality is this: kissing or embracing is a serious sin against chastity for those unmarried to each other when it is done with the intention of stimulating or promoting the sexual appetite or sexual desire, or when one thereby is freely and knowingly exposed to the proximate danger of unlawful sexual activity or of consent to sexual pleasure.

This means that necking (prolonged and passionate kissing) and petting (allowing a person to place his hands upon the intimate parts of the body) are seriously sinful for those unmarried to each other. They are deliberate assumptions of privileges and rights which have no place outside of marriage.

They are preludes to procreation. The same holds true for the “French kiss,” or whatever name it goes by (it has several). Such actions are mortally sinful because of what they normally do to the passions of the persons involved.

Even in cases where there is no evil intention or no proximate danger of sin, kissing or embracing without a relatively sufficient reason would not be free from venial sin.

In the beginning of courtship (dating) there might appear to be no danger at all in kissing or embracing because neither party has immodest intentions. Nevertheless, the couple are emotionally thrilled just to be together, and this emotional state is heightened by caresses even when modest.

In this heightened emotional state, physical passion is easily aroused.

Even modest signs of affection must be avoided if they are frequent, prolonged, and ardent, because these things invariably arouse physical passion and this cannot be the aim of unmarried people in expressing their affection.

This does not mean, however, that every kiss is seriously immoral.

An occasional kiss given with genuine affection and purity of thought is too lovely and good to be that. It’s just that young people have to bear in mind constantly that kissing can very easily get out of hand, because of different attitudes of the two sexes regarding kissing.

The attitude of a girl toward a kiss is quite different from the attitude of a boy. A girl loves affection and is little afraid of passion. She enjoys being admired. And she may maintain that she is not tempted in her body no matter how prolonged the kissing. So to her the kiss may simply indicate that she is attractive to some boy who shows his affection for her with a kiss.

Two people who have discovered that they are in love want to do more than merely tell each other about it. They want to manifest their love. This is natural. But demonstrations of affection must be held within the bounds of the moral law and the accepted standards of social propriety.

True love tends toward union, a union of hearts, not necessarily of bodies, certainly not before marriage. All marriage counselors agree to this.

They realize that a chaste courtship is necessary for happiness and success in marriage. The non-Catholic director of the American Institute of Family Relations, Paul Popenoe, expresses this fact very strongly in his book, Modern Marriage: “Continence is not only important but absolutely necessary, during the years preceding marriage…. It is not only a desirable but an indispensable means to an important end, namely, a successful marriage.

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